Gillian Reynolds asked:

“Are there steps to save my marriage?” That’s a sad question that many people unwillingly find themselves searching for an answer to. When you first come to the realization that your relationship with your spouse is crumbling it’s easy to ignore it and simply hope that things will magically get better in time. You blame the distance and discord on stress or the fact that you are struggling with money or the children. The fact of the matter is that unless you work towards reconciling your differences, the marriage has little chance of survival.

Nicusor Valentin Prefac asked:




Anyone can have problems in marriage and I want to show you some effective tips to save a marriage. Either you don’t want to lose your wife, your husband or your kids the tips that you will read in this article have proved to be effective in many marriages.

1) One of the most important tips to save a marriage is: Don’t argue with your partner!

Make whatever is possible to try not to argue with your wife or husband if your relationship is in danger and divorce is near. The argue will only make it worse and the results will be painful.Arguing will not save your marriage and that’s sure.

2) Don’t do things that annoys your partner.

If you want to save your marriage, try not to upset your partner in any way.

3)Do things together that you used to like.

A walking in a park, a picnic with your kids and your dog, fun things that got you close will get you close back.

4)Make gifts to each other.
Even if you are upset on each other ,make a gift, to show your partner that you still care about the marriage and about him or her. Surprise your partner with a funny gift, something that he would enjoy receiving it and it’s more likely that your relationship will improve.

5) Try to talk about the beautiful memories in your marriage.
Try to remember how beautiful was it in the past to show your partner that you can have a good relationship, but you just need to put some efforts to repair your marriage.

The tips to save a marriage are used by any person who wants to get the beautiful relationship back.Try to understand and use it if you want to save your marriage.

Kingsley Abayomi A. Aje asked:




Are you looking for how to save a relationship? Could be your marriage, it could be your boyfriend or girlfriend. All relationships go bad sometime and if it is not saved, then it dies. You can save your relationship if you are ready to follow the laws of relationships. Below are a few tips to help you save your relationship.

• Relationships do not just come to a halt one day. It usually gives signs and the signs are always gradual. Such signs are what we see and it is what helps us to save our relationships if we really value them. For instance, a marriage will not just end up in divorce without sending forth signs such as bitterness, complaints, distance between spouses and such. If however you have been seeing the wrong signs, it is time to analyze events.

• What is going wrong in your relationship? Who is not giving enough and who is giving too much? Who is too demanding and who is too possessive? Ask all the questions that can come to your head and make sure you proffer answers as much as you can. This is not a time to be bias, you have to be as neutral as possible to save a relationship. Whatever your discoveries were, you need to iterate them and decide to discuss them with your partner.

• Dialogue. Your relationship doesn’t have to go completely bad before you dialogue with your partner. The earlier you tackle the problems, the easier it will be to save your relationship. Try as much as possible to avoid arguments over things. If your partner is not seeing reasons, keep silent. If he or she is talking, you decide to listen. This will help him or her see that you are changed.

• The things that you have been able to agree on should be worked upon. Such things as spending more time with each other, taking retreats to rekindle your love for each other, having dates, watching movies together etc. Make sure you work on such.

You must know that all relationship go through test times, all you need is the brevity to make a change. Your partner may not be noticing the problems but be careful enough to talk it over with each other and decide to move on ahead. Not doing what has to be done will not save your relationship, it will only lead it into shambles.

Martin J Waterson asked:




I am happily married for almost 24 years. But it wasn’t always great. I made more mistakes than you can shake a stick at and quite honestly, there was a time when I didn’t think we were going to make it. But today, we have a wonderful 19 year old daughter and our life couldn’t be better. So how did we do it? Well, this article will provide you with three solid tips that work and should help you a lot in saving your marriage.

The first thing I learned, and this was the hardest lesson of all, was that it didn’t matter what I thought as far as who was at fault. In the mind of my wife, it was my fault. I had to accept that because unless I was willing to do that, there was no way to move forward. See, pride is a terrible thing. We never like to admit that we might be wrong about something. We’d rather blame everything on the other person. It might make us feel better, but it doesn’t help solve the problem. So that’s the first step…take responsibility.

The next thing you have to do, after you’ve taken responsibility for your part of the problem is admit this to your partner. Sit down and have a heart to heart. Lay all your cards out on the table. I remember the most important conversion I ever had with my wife. It started something like this…

“Honey, I know I’ve been a jerk. There is no excuse for the way I’ve been acting. You didn’t deserve the attitude you’ve been getting from me and I’m going to change. I don’t expect you to believe that because talk is cheap, so I’m just going to show you. Give me another chance.”

And I left it at that. My wife didn’t know what to say as this was coming from a person who was always blaming everything on her and the rest of the world. Nothing was my fault. What this does is it totally disarms your partner. If you take all the blame, they can’t really say anything back to you, at least nothing negative. That is why this is so effective.

Finally, don’t pressure your partner to take you back, if things have indeed gotten that bad. Maybe you’ve just reached the point where you’re sleeping on the couch. Whatever it is, don’t push it. Your partner will come to you when they see how you’ve changed. And that’s the real key…you MUST make an honest effort to fix what’s wrong. Otherwise, all of this is pointless.

Follow these three tips and you’ll find that your marriage is on the way to salvation. If you need more help, I’ve reviewed a great book on this subject, that I wish had come out when I first got married. It would have made my life a lot easier. You can find the review in my signature.

To YOUR Relationship Success,

Martin J Waterson

Brianna Z. Cherrin asked:




The Internet and some books and magazines claim to have the formula on how to save my marriage today. Though they present valid points and ideas, I believe that the bottom line here is there are just three things I need to do to fix the broken relationship I share with my spouse. This is according to what I have read, watched and listened to from various media to friends and others. It pays to be well-informed, you know. You should hone your observation and analytic skills too because that’s beneficial for you in the long run.

Back to the three things that can save my marriage today, the first thing I should do (and also what other couples must do as well) is to reflect. I know that self-reflection will help me open my eyes to see things more clearly and somehow in a different perspective. That’s something you should try also. Think carefully about the things you have done, decisions you have made, remarks you have said, whatever stuff that comes to mind about your marriage. Imagine it as a TV show that you are tasked to criticize or have an opinion on. Find out what lessons you can get from that. I know that I myself had made some pretty bad choices and had some share of mistakes that I’m not proud of or regret doing. Taking the time to reflect on one’s self is quite a healthy thing to do especially if it gives you a chance for improvement.

The next thing that can help me save my marriage today and the relationship of other married couples as well is some kind of a realization on where the partnership has gone wrong, how this bond worked so well before and how it seemed to be degrading now. In contrast to self-reflection, this process involves me and my spouse and how we have done as a couple. It’s like rating the said relationship but not quite. The goal for this is not to find someone to blame because if it takes two to build a marriage, it also takes two to bring it down. At the same time, it also takes two to save it. The purpose for this is to make sure you and your other half learn from your mistakes and shortcomings because if you want to make the marriage work again, you should keep in mind those important details and realization.

The third way for me to save my marriage today (and most people know this already) is to go to a marriage counselor, of course with my partner. That third person outside the relationship who is an expert in handling marriage or couple issues is going to be the key element for our marriage to find some light again. Marriage counseling is here to help married couples just like me and my spouse who are struggling to keep it together. Most couples were successful in salvaging their relationship with the help of counseling but there are just those that this option can’t fix. Those are cases that are way too late.