October 29th, 2009
October 23rd, 2009
Matt Murren asked:
In order to save my marriage I will have to make sure that this is what both my partner and I want to happen. If your partner isn’t interested in trying to save your marriage anymore, then maybe it is not worth saving. If the situation has gotten so serious that one partner is getting ready to leave then perhaps there is no real need to try. Maybe there isn’t anything that can be done even though one of you may be thinking – “I want to save my marriage”.
Before your relationship does go this far, maybe you should each take responsibility for actions which lead to the downward spiral in your marriage. Get together and discuss what each other expects from the marriage and what needs have not yet been met. While discussing the relationship neither partner should try to blame the other for what has already gone wrong. Each partner in this relationship should be willing to take responsibility for their contribution to the failure of the relationship and begin to mend fences from that point on.
After you have had time to figure out where things stand, try to communicate with each other instead of arguing, be open minded and try to work as a team for the same goal. Find a middle ground where you both can feel safe and at ease discussing the matter truthfully. Try to be cooperative with each other in finding a resolution to your problems.
If I were wondering how I could save my marriage, I would be serious enough to realize that I have to take blame for my own fault in what has happened. Until each partner is able to get to this point, there is no moving on. Be rational and reasonable because blaming each other can only worsen the situation.
Don’t go through marriage arguing each day and still not realizing that something serious is going on with your relationship. Don’t be in denial thinking, “My marriage doesn’t need to be saved because it’s not in any danger”. Denial will not get you very far in your relationship. The problems will just get deeper and in more danger of ending your marriage.
Just because you have gotten married doesn’t mean that you and yur spouse have to give up your own way of thinking. You had your own opinions about certain things before you were married and this fact will still be true after you are married. This doesn’t mean you are incompatible. There is almost always a middle ground and you can work with each other instead of one person trying to change the other. Just leave the line of communication open, always, and you may be able to save your marriage.
In order to save my marriage I will have to make sure that this is what both my partner and I want to happen. If your partner isn’t interested in trying to save your marriage anymore, then maybe it is not worth saving. If the situation has gotten so serious that one partner is getting ready to leave then perhaps there is no real need to try. Maybe there isn’t anything that can be done even though one of you may be thinking – “I want to save my marriage”.
Before your relationship does go this far, maybe you should each take responsibility for actions which lead to the downward spiral in your marriage. Get together and discuss what each other expects from the marriage and what needs have not yet been met. While discussing the relationship neither partner should try to blame the other for what has already gone wrong. Each partner in this relationship should be willing to take responsibility for their contribution to the failure of the relationship and begin to mend fences from that point on.
After you have had time to figure out where things stand, try to communicate with each other instead of arguing, be open minded and try to work as a team for the same goal. Find a middle ground where you both can feel safe and at ease discussing the matter truthfully. Try to be cooperative with each other in finding a resolution to your problems.
If I were wondering how I could save my marriage, I would be serious enough to realize that I have to take blame for my own fault in what has happened. Until each partner is able to get to this point, there is no moving on. Be rational and reasonable because blaming each other can only worsen the situation.
Don’t go through marriage arguing each day and still not realizing that something serious is going on with your relationship. Don’t be in denial thinking, “My marriage doesn’t need to be saved because it’s not in any danger”. Denial will not get you very far in your relationship. The problems will just get deeper and in more danger of ending your marriage.
Just because you have gotten married doesn’t mean that you and yur spouse have to give up your own way of thinking. You had your own opinions about certain things before you were married and this fact will still be true after you are married. This doesn’t mean you are incompatible. There is almost always a middle ground and you can work with each other instead of one person trying to change the other. Just leave the line of communication open, always, and you may be able to save your marriage.
October 23rd, 2009
Oboman asked:
My wife seems determined to divorce me. I realize, it’s better if we’re together. Best for the baby. I love my baby. It came to the point where she called the cops to kick me out. If I request counseling, what is the chance that couseling can save our marriage? What is the chance she will go to counseling with me?
October 17th, 2009
Christine B. Fortune asked:
You can help save a marriage, even your own. No matter what has happened or how bad things are between you, it can be done. Even if your problems are severe, all you need is some expert guidance to get you back to where you need to be.
Here are the top 4 FAQs to help save marriage, no matter what has gone wrong between the two of you.
1. Remember, your relationship belongs to you, so take charge of its well-being. You have the ability to change anything in your life, which means your relationship can be changed for the better. Your behavior and the way you choose to respond will determine what happens in your day to day life, including your marriage.
Therefore, remaining calm and keeping your anger in check during the trying times is going to help a lot. Keeping a positive attitude will also go a long way toward making things better. Expect your marriage to improve, and it will, though it may do so slowly.
2. Stay patient. It’s true that good things happen to those who wait, and real change won’t happen overnight. It took time for the two of you to fall in love, and it will take time for your problems to heal. It can be done, though, as long as you don’t try to rush it.
3. Always look for opportunities to show your spouse you care. In this matter, it’s the small gestures that mean the most. Little love notes, making a special meal, and giving a single flower can all make a big difference in how the two of you get along and how you feel about each other.
Even if you’re the only one doing any giving, you’ll still feel good.
4. Make time for each other. It’s easy to get distracted with jobs, kids, and a million other things in life and forget to cherish each other. However, it has to be done if you’re to have any hope to save your marriage.
You can help save a marriage, even your own. No matter what has happened or how bad things are between you, it can be done. Even if your problems are severe, all you need is some expert guidance to get you back to where you need to be.
Here are the top 4 FAQs to help save marriage, no matter what has gone wrong between the two of you.
1. Remember, your relationship belongs to you, so take charge of its well-being. You have the ability to change anything in your life, which means your relationship can be changed for the better. Your behavior and the way you choose to respond will determine what happens in your day to day life, including your marriage.
Therefore, remaining calm and keeping your anger in check during the trying times is going to help a lot. Keeping a positive attitude will also go a long way toward making things better. Expect your marriage to improve, and it will, though it may do so slowly.
2. Stay patient. It’s true that good things happen to those who wait, and real change won’t happen overnight. It took time for the two of you to fall in love, and it will take time for your problems to heal. It can be done, though, as long as you don’t try to rush it.
3. Always look for opportunities to show your spouse you care. In this matter, it’s the small gestures that mean the most. Little love notes, making a special meal, and giving a single flower can all make a big difference in how the two of you get along and how you feel about each other.
Even if you’re the only one doing any giving, you’ll still feel good.
4. Make time for each other. It’s easy to get distracted with jobs, kids, and a million other things in life and forget to cherish each other. However, it has to be done if you’re to have any hope to save your marriage.
October 16th, 2009
just do it asked:
My wife and I are seperated and I have gave her divorce papers already, the only reason I did was because I am so frusterated and don’t know what else to do how can I save my marriage. we barley even talk to each other.much less see each other but she will not sign the papers. What do I do?
