October 12th, 2009
October 6th, 2009
Darkking asked:
I want to know ideas on how to save the institution of marriage in the US.
By saving, meaning to reduce the divorce rate
To bring back value in it like chastity until marriage
and other stuff
Ardrick that is one of the reasons it is failing, more of it will kill it off, you don’t give a drowning man more water
No, allowing gay marriage is not the answer
You honestly believe that will help save it?
Pardon me, more marriages equal more divorce, thus helping out the lawyers and helping the disintegration of marriage.
October 6th, 2009
Linda Bexlorth asked:
“And they lived happily ever after…” I can’t help but sigh…and grin whenever I come across this phrase.
If you’re like me who’s past his youth, you already know that for impossible-to-happen fairy tales its: “Happily ever after”…But when you snap back to reality, its all about: “Help me save my marriage!”
I’ve heard and seen people ask for help more times than I care to count. And it’s depressing for me to realize that they get the wrong advice from people with good intentions…Advice that sends a fatal blow to an otherwise salvageable marriage.
BUT don’t worry. I’ll be laying down counter-intuitive yet highly effective tips that would help you rebuild your relationship. Tips that answer the plea: “Help me save my marriage!”
Help Me Save My Marriage Tip 1
Keep your head clear…don’t panic!
Do the other way around and it’s almost guaranteed that you’ll end up doing something you’ll regret. Forget about oh-so-cleverly and “accidentally” bumping into them. Forget about begging, whining, or threatening her for forgiveness.
Get this: if you’re ex feels that she’s attacked or threatened in any way, your ex will NEVER talk to you again. And down go your hopes of making up with him or her.
We don’t want that to happen.
Help Me Save My Marriage Tip 2
Agree with her decision to break up…for the time being.
You may not see it yet, but this is clearly in line with keeping your head clear. After a break up, emotions run high and complicate things. And the first emotional urge you’ll feel is to run to her and beg for her love.
That takes us back to tip one…You mustn’t beg!
Temporarily allowing the break-up gives you time to be alone…time to pacify those unstable emotions and clear your head. Then, like a superb strategist, plan your next course of action which is…
Help Me Save My Marriage Tip 3
Write and send her a note.
Not to beg for her forgiveness though, but to show that even with extremely trying times like this, you’re ok and have accepted her decision. Use this chance to ask her out for a personal talk, not about the break-up, but how you can get along as friends.
This sends the message that you thought hard about the situation and you greatly respect your ex’s decision and opinion. Its an excellent step to getting back to her.
There are a lot more things that you should do to completely turn back the time and magically renew your marriage. But get these right and you’re halfway there.
Apply these tips without delay. Time isn’t our ally.
“And they lived happily ever after…” I can’t help but sigh…and grin whenever I come across this phrase.
If you’re like me who’s past his youth, you already know that for impossible-to-happen fairy tales its: “Happily ever after”…But when you snap back to reality, its all about: “Help me save my marriage!”
I’ve heard and seen people ask for help more times than I care to count. And it’s depressing for me to realize that they get the wrong advice from people with good intentions…Advice that sends a fatal blow to an otherwise salvageable marriage.
BUT don’t worry. I’ll be laying down counter-intuitive yet highly effective tips that would help you rebuild your relationship. Tips that answer the plea: “Help me save my marriage!”
Help Me Save My Marriage Tip 1
Keep your head clear…don’t panic!
Do the other way around and it’s almost guaranteed that you’ll end up doing something you’ll regret. Forget about oh-so-cleverly and “accidentally” bumping into them. Forget about begging, whining, or threatening her for forgiveness.
Get this: if you’re ex feels that she’s attacked or threatened in any way, your ex will NEVER talk to you again. And down go your hopes of making up with him or her.
We don’t want that to happen.
Help Me Save My Marriage Tip 2
Agree with her decision to break up…for the time being.
You may not see it yet, but this is clearly in line with keeping your head clear. After a break up, emotions run high and complicate things. And the first emotional urge you’ll feel is to run to her and beg for her love.
That takes us back to tip one…You mustn’t beg!
Temporarily allowing the break-up gives you time to be alone…time to pacify those unstable emotions and clear your head. Then, like a superb strategist, plan your next course of action which is…
Help Me Save My Marriage Tip 3
Write and send her a note.
Not to beg for her forgiveness though, but to show that even with extremely trying times like this, you’re ok and have accepted her decision. Use this chance to ask her out for a personal talk, not about the break-up, but how you can get along as friends.
This sends the message that you thought hard about the situation and you greatly respect your ex’s decision and opinion. Its an excellent step to getting back to her.
There are a lot more things that you should do to completely turn back the time and magically renew your marriage. But get these right and you’re halfway there.
Apply these tips without delay. Time isn’t our ally.
October 4th, 2009
October 2nd, 2009
Gracie Holland asked:
When we marry, we want it to last forever. However sometimes that does not look like that is going to happen. If you feel that your marriage is really in trouble, then these important steps will lead you in the right direction to help save your marriage from divorce.
First of all you must evaluate your marriage. You need to be honest with yourself and really think about your relationship. In what areas is it lacking? Is it communication, trust, respect, sex or something else? Maybe it is a combination of several things. After you do that, think about what you can do to improve in these areas. If you think that you are perfect and it is all your spouses fault, think again.
In a committed relationship we have to learn to give and take. It is not just all about you anymore, it is about two people that both give 110% to making the marriage work. Now I am not saying that your spouse is blameless, but you need to decide what you can do to make it better. By the same token, your spouse needs to do the same thing. He or she also needs to think about the marriage and what they themselves can do to improve it.
After that is done, both of you need to compare your lists and have a heart to heart talk with no arguing. With each of you calmly discussing what you are unhappy with in your marriage, then and only then can you take the steps to solve the problems. With a little give and take, you can reach a solution that you both can live with and save your marriage from divorce.
When we marry, we want it to last forever. However sometimes that does not look like that is going to happen. If you feel that your marriage is really in trouble, then these important steps will lead you in the right direction to help save your marriage from divorce.
First of all you must evaluate your marriage. You need to be honest with yourself and really think about your relationship. In what areas is it lacking? Is it communication, trust, respect, sex or something else? Maybe it is a combination of several things. After you do that, think about what you can do to improve in these areas. If you think that you are perfect and it is all your spouses fault, think again.
In a committed relationship we have to learn to give and take. It is not just all about you anymore, it is about two people that both give 110% to making the marriage work. Now I am not saying that your spouse is blameless, but you need to decide what you can do to make it better. By the same token, your spouse needs to do the same thing. He or she also needs to think about the marriage and what they themselves can do to improve it.
After that is done, both of you need to compare your lists and have a heart to heart talk with no arguing. With each of you calmly discussing what you are unhappy with in your marriage, then and only then can you take the steps to solve the problems. With a little give and take, you can reach a solution that you both can live with and save your marriage from divorce.
