June 28th, 2010
June 28th, 2010
June 28th, 2010
Ashley asked:
We have been married for a while and at first it was a good marriage! i loved him a lot and was so happy to have him as a husband. We had our 2 year old and now things are hell! He cant keep a job for anything unless hes working at a restaurant making tips! He doesn’t know how to save a dime and doesn’t help me pay any bills except rent! He was an okay father at first, than we decided to have one more baby and ended up with twins and now he is by far the worst father to our kids. Hes irresponsible to the fullest and i don’t know what to do. We are currently attending counseling and i still feel like i cant take it anymore! I pay for everything for the house (bills) and for the kids. Im tired of being with a broke guy! i cant take care of myself and keep myself looking nice because i handle everything else. I know i said through thick and thin for better or worst but this is by far worst than worst! Help advice please!
We have been married for a while and at first it was a good marriage! i loved him a lot and was so happy to have him as a husband. We had our 2 year old and now things are hell! He cant keep a job for anything unless hes working at a restaurant making tips! He doesn’t know how to save a dime and doesn’t help me pay any bills except rent! He was an okay father at first, than we decided to have one more baby and ended up with twins and now he is by far the worst father to our kids. Hes irresponsible to the fullest and i don’t know what to do. We are currently attending counseling and i still feel like i cant take it anymore! I pay for everything for the house (bills) and for the kids. Im tired of being with a broke guy! i cant take care of myself and keep myself looking nice because i handle everything else. I know i said through thick and thin for better or worst but this is by far worst than worst! Help advice please!
June 28th, 2010
June 28th, 2010
Kingsley Abayomi A. Aje asked:
Are you looking for how to save a relationship? Could be your marriage, it could be your boyfriend or girlfriend. All relationships go bad sometime and if it is not saved, then it dies. You can save your relationship if you are ready to follow the laws of relationships. Below are a few tips to help you save your relationship.
• Relationships do not just come to a halt one day. It usually gives signs and the signs are always gradual. Such signs are what we see and it is what helps us to save our relationships if we really value them. For instance, a marriage will not just end up in divorce without sending forth signs such as bitterness, complaints, distance between spouses and such. If however you have been seeing the wrong signs, it is time to analyze events.
• What is going wrong in your relationship? Who is not giving enough and who is giving too much? Who is too demanding and who is too possessive? Ask all the questions that can come to your head and make sure you proffer answers as much as you can. This is not a time to be bias, you have to be as neutral as possible to save a relationship. Whatever your discoveries were, you need to iterate them and decide to discuss them with your partner.
• Dialogue. Your relationship doesn’t have to go completely bad before you dialogue with your partner. The earlier you tackle the problems, the easier it will be to save your relationship. Try as much as possible to avoid arguments over things. If your partner is not seeing reasons, keep silent. If he or she is talking, you decide to listen. This will help him or her see that you are changed.
• The things that you have been able to agree on should be worked upon. Such things as spending more time with each other, taking retreats to rekindle your love for each other, having dates, watching movies together etc. Make sure you work on such.
You must know that all relationship go through test times, all you need is the brevity to make a change. Your partner may not be noticing the problems but be careful enough to talk it over with each other and decide to move on ahead. Not doing what has to be done will not save your relationship, it will only lead it into shambles.
Are you looking for how to save a relationship? Could be your marriage, it could be your boyfriend or girlfriend. All relationships go bad sometime and if it is not saved, then it dies. You can save your relationship if you are ready to follow the laws of relationships. Below are a few tips to help you save your relationship.
• Relationships do not just come to a halt one day. It usually gives signs and the signs are always gradual. Such signs are what we see and it is what helps us to save our relationships if we really value them. For instance, a marriage will not just end up in divorce without sending forth signs such as bitterness, complaints, distance between spouses and such. If however you have been seeing the wrong signs, it is time to analyze events.
• What is going wrong in your relationship? Who is not giving enough and who is giving too much? Who is too demanding and who is too possessive? Ask all the questions that can come to your head and make sure you proffer answers as much as you can. This is not a time to be bias, you have to be as neutral as possible to save a relationship. Whatever your discoveries were, you need to iterate them and decide to discuss them with your partner.
• Dialogue. Your relationship doesn’t have to go completely bad before you dialogue with your partner. The earlier you tackle the problems, the easier it will be to save your relationship. Try as much as possible to avoid arguments over things. If your partner is not seeing reasons, keep silent. If he or she is talking, you decide to listen. This will help him or her see that you are changed.
• The things that you have been able to agree on should be worked upon. Such things as spending more time with each other, taking retreats to rekindle your love for each other, having dates, watching movies together etc. Make sure you work on such.
You must know that all relationship go through test times, all you need is the brevity to make a change. Your partner may not be noticing the problems but be careful enough to talk it over with each other and decide to move on ahead. Not doing what has to be done will not save your relationship, it will only lead it into shambles.
