Save My Marriage

Tips to Save Your Marriage

vasail — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 09:26:32 +0000

Jamaluddin Abdul Muthalib asked:

Marriage is an institution in which interpersonal relationships are acknowledged by the state or by religious authority. It is often viewed as a contract. People marry for many reasons, but usually one or more of the following: legal, social, and economic stability; the formation of a family unit; procreation and the education and nurturing of children; legitimizing sexual relations; public declaration of love; or to obtain citizenship.

It’s truly sad to hear of marriages in trouble. Nobody wants trouble, but trouble does happen. You may ask your self whether you can save your marriage or not?” My answer is yes, why? Because when you ask yourself that question means you do want to save your marriage. Because if you never think of that question, there is no way you can save your marriage. But how can you save your marriage? Here are 4 tips on how to save your marriage. You and your spouse can apply these tips today to start the process of saving your relationship and marriage.

1. More communication Communication is important in our live, so it same to marriage. If you fail to communicate with your partner, it’s about time your marriage will over. The most common reason to marriage problem is fail to communicate or miscommunication between spouses. When problems arise, people stop talking to each other. Simply put, a marriage cannot be saved if the couple can’t figure things out together. When a new problem appears, a married couple needs to talk more, not less.

2. Compromise Compromise means respect between spouses. You must allow your love to have a higher priority than the matter at hand. When you compromise doesn’t mean you allow your partner to control you, but it mean respect your spouse right. Keep a side you ego and be the first to compromise and you will surprise that you are half-way to save your marriage.

3. Make effort to show more love and affection Most of the time marriage breaks down only because the person feels that they are not being loved or care by his/her partner. After five years of marriage most of couple fail to show love to their spouse. All couples must remember that feeling loved is essential. You must make effort to show your love and affection to your partner.

4. Forgiveness Forgiveness is very important in relationship including marriage. Try to forgive and forget. Everybody make mistake. Give changes to your partner. Forgiveness is power full but difficult, that why it’s powerful. With love, compromise and communication, it is easier to forgive and forget. If ever, you are asking the question “Can I save my marriage?”, try to apply these 4 tips into your situation. You will be pleasantly surprised at the healing and rebuilding that can be achieved in your marriage if you only give these a try. If you need help, you can always get help from marriage counseling like online counseling help at online marriage counseling

Billing problems (Adults only)?

vasail — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 13:52:25 +0000

Distance can KILL asked:

I’m 14 yrs old and I’m an 8th grader. Lately, I’ve been meaning to get some help. Before I begin, I only want useful answers, I wouldn’t want a child to argue with me. I need an adult help. And yes, this problem happens to be my business because this is my home.
So anyways, this is the third time the mortgage payment has been backed-up. The first time, let’s say my family were lucky. And no, I don’t have a step-mom or dad. My parents are still in marriage. However that’s not my problem. The problem is that I don’t believe there’s hope for my family. We were about to lose the house 3 times. We live in a one-family house. And the most replies I was told was that this home was like a kid’s dream house. I believe my parents’ payment aren’t enough to pay the bills. For example, the house needs to be paid but so as the extras like water, light, gas etc.etc. And yea…..the point is that is there still hope. Like any tips, ideas, helpful hints on how we can still save my house from being taken away. How my parents can make a miracle to pay the bills AND HOUSE! So..please help me, I’m pretty sure you adults understand this. And please don’t spead the words about this. I’m just….major wreck right now. Thanks

Sign of a Cheating Spouse: the Plastic Does not Lie

vasail — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 20:59:14 +0000

asked:

How much independence in marriage is appropriate?

vasail — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 23:48:15 +0000

Sha-na-na asked:

A marriage is a joining of two people, but where does individuality begin and end?

For instance:

Is it acceptable to have separate e-mails and private access?
Does this promote the idea that another’s activity is questionable?

He tends to look at what I am opening and he peeks out of the corner of his eye to see who has sent me messages. Is this possesive or normal posessive tendencies in a relationship?

Separate e-bay accounts?

Right now, he has access to my account, but I may not want him to see what I am buying; especially if it is for him. Should he be offended if I change my password? How do I word it to him?

Myspace: good or bad idea?

How to Save a Sinking Marriage

vasail — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 09:02:52 +0000

asked:

Dating Question. I may have been too forward?

vasail — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 02:11:44 +0000

Michelle asked:

I started talking to this guy and we hit it off great on the first date.. the 2nd was good. but he was hinting on how physically attracted he was to me… and i mentioned that i was saving myself till marriage.. (im not a virgn but its a choice i made when i had ended my heart wrenching past relationship within the past year)

anyways.. after that evening i noticed he changed a bit. makeing comments like.. i have friends i wouldnt mind introducing you too.. and i think we should are better off as friends.

Im al for the friends thing. So 3 weeks pass and he contacts me txt “miss u babe”.. and i want to see u.. and flirting txts.

so i go see him and when i do hes semi flirting.. then we start talking about what weve been up to.. and i mentioned a friend that i was about to be intimate with but icouldnt bc i just wasnt ready like i thought.. and this guy im talking to acted all “cool” about it..and the subject changed… but as the night went on his answers were short.. and he seemed annoyed with me. we didnt have great conversation and when i left. he ws just started to act wierd. and kept telling me i think were better as friends.

Ok my questions.. im new to dating… was i too forward and honest? ?? bc i thought i could be honest like that bc he mentions at times that hes going to hang out with his ex.. and i dont say anything.. or act different. so i thought if i was honest.. it wouldnt be a problem, i clearly like this guy and i would like to talk to him again….

any tips on what to say or to avoid on a date.?? advice for anything else??

What do you think about this legislation to ban advertising /promotion of hetero marriages?

vasail — Sat, 24 Jul 2010 20:02:51 +0000

I Had 32 Characters To Work With asked:

In all U.S. states except Mass., gay marriages are NOT legal. This means that gay marriages are “illegal”. The U.S. Fed. Govt. and State and local Govt.s have determined that many things are “illegal”, such as rape, murder, under-age drinking, drug dealing and so on. The justification for determining “illegality” is always based on harm, “harmful”, intent to harm etc.

So what the Govt. is saying is that “MARRIAGE” is harmful. It’s not the homosexuals who are harmful, it’s the activity of “marriage”. Therefore I plan to propose new legislation that would BAN all advertising, publications, newspaper announcements, television coverage etc. of any hetero marriage and marriage “paraphernalia” incl. wedding cakes, chiffon dresses etc. Just like the cigarette legislation.

In fact I am proposing that marriages be banned in all public buildings, parks, beaches, bars, restaurants, churches etc.

What’s your opinion?
Hey DEATH…aka whatever, why don’t you take your bitterness somewhere else. Try studying law before you ramble.
Gee Tab… I would have stayed up all night wondering….thanks.

Can I Save My Marriage? Tips on Saving My Marriage Today

vasail — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 22:33:53 +0000

Johnny Wayne asked:

A marriage may have plenty of happy and sad moments. During the sad moments, people will tend to have this questions of “How can I save my marriage” in their mind. However, if you avoid the problem and leave it as it is, the problem will worsen. This will affect your marriage and result into undesirable outcomes.

If you are uncertain how to go about solving your problems and keeping your relationship safe, you could look for many of the sources available in the world. For one, your family and friends would be there to give you advice from their own experiences. If you feel it is not enough, you could try going online and looking for sources that has relationship advices and problem-solving techniques. If you think that you want more professional help, marriage counsellors and psychiatrists are available to teach you and give you suggestions on saving your relationship.

If you believe that your relationship is worth it, then everything you do will be backed up with motivation. Love is one of the greatest emotions a person can have, and when you experience it, you could feel as if you are in heaven. Keeping your relationship would be for the sake of continuing this warmth and joy of being with your significant other. Thus, when you put yourself through the tedious work and thankless efforts that test your endurance, you know that the outcome will be worth it, and when you achieve it, the outcome becomes even sweeter.

Intimacy is one of the most powerful things that can hold a couple together. Being intimate can be shy and embarrassing but it gives the warmth and joy that few other things in the world can do. When you and your lover first started being together, the level of intimacy is still very high, and you would need to keep it high to try to maintain your feelings for each other.

Being able to understand each other is another important feature about a relationship that you two would need to know. Talk to your partner in a way that is clear and not misunderstood. A man and a woman are still very different even when they have come together as a couple, so when you are needing something from your partner, such as a night out for dinner, do make it clear that you want to go to a posh restaurant, otherwise you might end up going to the nearest fast food restaurant and eating with a bustling crowd instead.

If you have children, consider finding someone else to care for them sometimes so that you two could continue to maintain your own private world with each other. Your children will be important to you, and more attention needs to be given to them, more than even your spouse.

So consider arranging time and space for you and your spouse to continue the romantic world you two created and can continue to enjoy. It would be difficult to maintain it because of the many problems you two will surely face in life, but love and passion are there to help you two.

Why do people against gay marriage (or any gay issue) feel that their opinion is more valuable than others?

vasail — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 20:33:20 +0000

purple dove asked:

I have read lots of questions on here, from people against gay marriage and/or gay people just in general, basically just wanting people to agree with them. OK fine, i guess that is 1/2 of what this forum is about. But what i want to know is why when you disagree with them & state your opinion on whatever it is they asked, they automatically assume that you’re angry, defensive, not listening, etc etc etc?
What makes their opinions “just my opinions” & anyone who disagrees with them is either picking on them, being mean or in that whole angry, defensive, etc. category?
I just want to know why they can’t say they are “just expressing their feelings/opinions” & can’t accept that’s what others are doing as well?
BTW i am not gay, i am a bi woman, well not that either, i am a straight woman who happens to like to include a certain woman in some sexual activities. Put whatever label you want on that.
Basically i just believe in equality. OK done with my rant – have on with yours.
BTW i didn’t say anyone had to agree with the lifestyle, i said allow someone to have a different opinion and not automatically assume something about them becuase they do have a different opinion.

7 Effective Tips To Save A Marriage

vasail — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 21:25:12 +0000

Abiodun Onipede asked:

What you are about to read is more than tips, they are the
hidden power those that have saved their marriages have applied. In
other word, I refer to them as “seven pillars of saving
marriage. “But before we go into that, permit me to ask you
these questions, does any of underlisted sounds familiar?

i]”I love you, but I am not in love with you anymore.”

ii]”I am not attracted to you any more.”

iii]”We got married for all the wrong reasons.”

iv]”Why can’t you just admit that we just made a mistake.”

v]”I never really love you in the first place.”

vi]”It is time to tell the kid it is over.”

vii]”My affair is not the reason our marriage is not working.”

viii]”I need my space or separation.”

The chances are your spouse might have released one or two of these “bombshell” at you and as a result you are feeling down. Also you, are wondering could this have come from the mouth of someone you both vowed “till death do us apart”? The good news about this that you are not alone and all these as might be applicable to you could be turned to opposite statements, if you are willing to act on the following save marital foundational truth:

1]Discover: That is find out the reason your marriage is having problem with open mind, often this not done and the problem will keeping drifting your marriage its untimely grave.

2]Pre-determine: That is right from the outset of your effort to save your marriage, you should imagine yourself and your spouse were in love as if you were just wedded.

3]Talk and Act Right: Do and say the right thing at the right time. For instance, don’t discuss your marital problem when your spouse is viewing his/her favorite TV program.

4]Keep Your Temper: Control your temper, this is not the best of time to flare up, friend, you are at a time you need to watch what ever come out of your mouth and your attitude.Remember the saying, “If you want to gather honey, you don’t kick the beehive.”

5]Patience: Yes you will need it. It will take time-just know that Rome was not built in a day. The troubles with your marriage did not start today, of truth your marriage can be saved, so don’t rush.

6]Compromise: As a matter of fact, this may even be one of the sources of your marital problem, base on the fact that marital relationship is best workable on mutual understanding and sometime allow other partner to save face on certain issues.

7]Forgive And Forget: The obligation here is very simple, do not dig about the past as well don’t try to score point with your spouse either you are the one at fault or not.

Finally,discovering these truth about how to get started to save your marriage is not only enough, as you will need to put them into action before you can get maximum benefits from them. And please don’t discard them, if you don’t want to court with frustration in the process of saving your marriage, as a matter of fact, irrespective of methods you intend to adopt to save your marriage, you will surely need one or all of these”save marriage foundational truth.