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Ashley asked:


We have been married for a while and at first it was a good marriage! i loved him a lot and was so happy to have him as a husband. We had our 2 year old and now things are hell! He cant keep a job for anything unless hes working at a restaurant making tips! He doesn’t know how to save a dime and doesn’t help me pay any bills except rent! He was an okay father at first, than we decided to have one more baby and ended up with twins and now he is by far the worst father to our kids. Hes irresponsible to the fullest and i don’t know what to do. We are currently attending counseling and i still feel like i cant take it anymore! I pay for everything for the house (bills) and for the kids. Im tired of being with a broke guy! i cant take care of myself and keep myself looking nice because i handle everything else. I know i said through thick and thin for better or worst but this is by far worst than worst! Help advice please!

Martin J Waterson asked:




I am happily married for almost 24 years. But it wasn’t always great. I made more mistakes than you can shake a stick at and quite honestly, there was a time when I didn’t think we were going to make it. But today, we have a wonderful 19 year old daughter and our life couldn’t be better. So how did we do it? Well, this article will provide you with three solid tips that work and should help you a lot in saving your marriage.

The first thing I learned, and this was the hardest lesson of all, was that it didn’t matter what I thought as far as who was at fault. In the mind of my wife, it was my fault. I had to accept that because unless I was willing to do that, there was no way to move forward. See, pride is a terrible thing. We never like to admit that we might be wrong about something. We’d rather blame everything on the other person. It might make us feel better, but it doesn’t help solve the problem. So that’s the first step…take responsibility.

The next thing you have to do, after you’ve taken responsibility for your part of the problem is admit this to your partner. Sit down and have a heart to heart. Lay all your cards out on the table. I remember the most important conversion I ever had with my wife. It started something like this…

“Honey, I know I’ve been a jerk. There is no excuse for the way I’ve been acting. You didn’t deserve the attitude you’ve been getting from me and I’m going to change. I don’t expect you to believe that because talk is cheap, so I’m just going to show you. Give me another chance.”

And I left it at that. My wife didn’t know what to say as this was coming from a person who was always blaming everything on her and the rest of the world. Nothing was my fault. What this does is it totally disarms your partner. If you take all the blame, they can’t really say anything back to you, at least nothing negative. That is why this is so effective.

Finally, don’t pressure your partner to take you back, if things have indeed gotten that bad. Maybe you’ve just reached the point where you’re sleeping on the couch. Whatever it is, don’t push it. Your partner will come to you when they see how you’ve changed. And that’s the real key…you MUST make an honest effort to fix what’s wrong. Otherwise, all of this is pointless.

Follow these three tips and you’ll find that your marriage is on the way to salvation. If you need more help, I’ve reviewed a great book on this subject, that I wish had come out when I first got married. It would have made my life a lot easier. You can find the review in my signature.

To YOUR Relationship Success,

Martin J Waterson

David W asked:


I’m 60, wife is 59. After she went through menopause. she lost all interest in sex. Its been 8 months or so since we had sex and then she wasn’t too excited about it. She did get some hormone once, but quit taking it because she said it didn’t help. I’ve done all the things I know to do; make romantic dates, go on trips (cruises, etc.). I’ve talked to her, argued with her, tried to reason with her, she just doesn’t want sex anymore. We are both in good health and have no other major problems. We still kiss goodbye, spend a lot of time together, enjoy the same activities……just no sex. As an added note, we’ve been married 12 years, second time for both. We were both single for several years between marriages and I know she was very sexually active then. I don’t care that she was sexually active then, but it hurts my feelings that she won’t even try to work this problem out. I am tired of masturbating and very seriously considering finding sex outside my marriage.

Douglas Quinn asked:

It is very common for married couples to come to a point in their marriage when they just are not seeing eye-to-eye. They are arguing a lot and the marriage just is not what they thought it would be. And you may be wondering “are there some ways to save my marriage?”

Tony B. Smith asked:

You probably have that feeling that your spouse is cheating on you. You feel that your marriage is being neglected and want to know if you’re really being cheated on. So, what I’m going to share with you are some signs of cheating in marriage.